Transition Your Life

Do Two More

2012-01-20T11:14:00.000-08:00

This guest post is by Michelle Peralta of The Run-Down

Two more minutes reading, two more sheets to fold, two more reps at the gym, two more minutes on the phone with an old friend, two more minutes on yourself.

Apply this wherever you see fit. I started at the gym. Just two more squats, two more minutes running, two more push-ups. It kind of revs you up a bit, because you really want to finish strong and make it worth it. You eventually see and feel results; physically and mentally. Where do you think can you apply Two More?

Michelle Peralta is an Arizona Blogger who enjoys writing about fitness, food and finding balance. Visit her blog at The Run-Down

Coping with the Unexpected

2012-01-19T13:14:00.000-08:00

Are you in troubled waters? Has life thrown you a curve ball? Both of these are metaphors for unplanned and unexpected changes and pending life transitions.

Here are four ways to help you cope with the unexpected.

1) Acknowledge you are going through a tough time.

2) Make a resolve to take care of your physical self. Eat well, continue or step up the exercise. Get plenty of sleep.

3) Be aware of your mental and emotional health. When times are tough we usually experience stress on an extreme level. This causes us to experience more emotions and creates more mental anxiety. Be willing to seek the advise of physical and mental health professionals to help you get you through theses trying times if you find you are not coping well.

4) Don't go it alone. Seek out friends and family to confide and communicate with. A transition coach can also be part of the assistance you may need to help you through this time.

Take the First Steps

2012-01-05T11:18:00.000-08:00

At the beginning of the new year, resolutions abound. To keep yourself going, ask yourself "What are the first steps I need to take to begin working on my resolution?". Take for example, the resolution of eating healthy in 2012 - Your first step might be to create a weekly menu and post it on your refrigerator. If exercise is going to be one of your resolutions, putting on your exercise shoes at some point in your day will be a first step component each time you start your exercise regime.

Knowing your first steps is important in making a transition. These first steps may be elusive for some resolutions, but take some time to think them out and you will have a key component of making a change.

What are some of your first steps for your resolutions?

Improve your Focus

2011-12-27T11:00:00.000-08:00

Focus is what you put your time and energy into. We all focus on various elements throughout the day, weeks and year. These elements are our work, our household, our relationships. By being aware of our goals, desires and commitments we can be more able to utilize our focusing ability. Focus requires accountability to ourselves or others. Sometimes it takes pure determination. One needs to be conscious of one's actions to be successfully focused. Here are three aspects of focus we may need to understand.

Health and Focus

It is important to consider our physical and mental health. When we are tired, sick depressed or exhausted, all our efforts towards focusing will be hindered. It is really important to improve our physical and mental state of health to increase our focusing ability.Good nutrition and exercise are key elements to successful and productive focusing efforts.

The Connection between Energy level and Focus Productivity

When are you most able to focus? Get to know your energy levels throughout the day.We can improve our productivity by utilizing our most energetic times on the most complex projects we want to complete. We can do routine and less complicated tasks during our low energy times.

Get to know the Enemies of your Focus

What are your distraction? Electronic distractors such as computer games such as solitaire, excessive internet browsing, Facebook, Twitter and Google Reader may swallow your day away. Lengthy phone calls, texting and an overloaded email box may also take up lots of your valuable focus time. Non-electronic distractors such as magazines, good books, long lunch or coffee breaks, or excessive amounts of any task such as cleaning, talking, or eating may also take up our best focusing time. Be aware and start to work on reducing your distractions. You will then have more time to focus on what you really want to do. The distractors are forms of procrastination or avoidance. You might want to consider working with a productivity or life coach to help you move forward in the new year.

We can improve our focus levels by working on these three elements.Real focus is a conscious commitment to ourselves.Now is a good time to review your areas of focus and work towards a productive 2012.

Look at What is Working in Your Life

2011-12-19T10:52:00.000-08:00

When we are in the midst of change, we often think of the future as being the only place we want to be. Try instead to look at the simple things that are working in your life right now. There are almost certainly things that are going well and making your life comfortable and enjoyable. Sometime we have to dig a bit but it is worth taking a look.

Here are some elements we might want to think about:

The current season
The daily weather
A good book to read
Water that comes from a faucet
A good friend to call
A hot meal
Lights that turn on at a flip of a switch
A place to sleep
A toothbrush to clean your teeth
The sounds of early morning birds in your neighborhood
A pair of comfy socks
A piece of paper to write on
A computer that allows you to visit the world from your desk

What might you want to add to this list? Think about what makes your daily life enjoyable and comfortable. By paying attention to what is working in our life, we are more likely to adopt a positive attitude towards our future.

Practice Year-end Productivity

2011-12-13T09:00:00.000-08:00

Get a jump on 2012. Follow these December productivity techniques to wrap up the business year and be ready to roll in 2012. Most of these tasks will individually take less than twenty minutes. So invest the time and get set up to be a more productive you in 2012.

Clear out your desk drawer
Wipe down your bookshelves in the office
Purge any unneeded reference material, seminar binders.
Update your credentials to reflect the year
Update your contact management system with new contact information or changed addresses
Clear unused files and folders off your computer desktop

Looking for more tips? Check out the free monthly tips on my website.

This is Transition Your Life's 150th post. I started this blog in August of 2007 with the goal to write about transition and change. I also started a second blog in 2009 - Terry's Thinking which is designed for coaches, professional organizers and consultants.

Prepare some new ideas!

2011-12-06T16:21:00.001-08:00

Creativity is not always at hand when we need it most. This is especially true when we are cooking up a transition in our lives. Sometimes we need to try to be extra creative, so we can get some new ideas that set us on our way.

The secret to being creative is trying to simply "be". Being isn't easy. It takes time. This time includes practice, persistence and above all, patience.

Here are six "be" concepts which can be done or not done. These ideas are in no particular order.

Be still
Be moving around
Be aware of your senses
Be willing to temporarily close out some of our senses
Be in a different environment
Be in our normal environment by just hanging in there with a different frame of mind

Let's think of creativity as a salad for those in the Northern hemisphere, and a soup, for those in the Southern hemisphere. It takes a few good ingredients to make a soup or salad special. Try a mixture of the ideas from numbers 1 - 6.

Let me know if you cook up any new ideas. You will be well on your way to preparing something good before long.

This is a best of post from 2009.

Practice Gratitude

2011-11-22T21:31:00.000-08:00

Gratitude is something we can practice all year-long. You can be grateful for people, places and things.

People Gratitude

Gratitude can be given to those who we work with, live with, play with or chance encounter. Gratitude does not have to cost a thing. But it can be also given in the form of a note, email or token gift. I am grateful for my family, friends, clients and colleagues. I am also grateful for the friendly staff at my local supermarket who brighten my day.

Places or Event Gratitude

If you have ever experienced joy in a specific location or at an event, you can be grateful just in the experience. Sometimes there are people to thank, other times it is just the connection of circumstances that can make you grateful for experiencing the moment. I am grateful for starry clear nights, my home, and recent family trip to Wyoming and the impromptu tailgate we had at a windy intersection.

Things or Object Gratitude

Some people make a list of the top objects or things that make them happy. For me it is my comfortable chair, my atomic clock, my latest fiction book I am reading in the evening.

Take some time to think about who, what and where you are grateful. It is a great exercise to work on this time of the year.

Modified from Terry's Thinking Blog December 2010.

Ask Good Questions

2011-11-21T15:12:00.000-08:00

Do you ask questions? The questions we need or want to ask are often the ones that help us find the answers.

Questions work best if they are relatively short and direct. Complex questions can get us bogged down in terms of perspective and framework as well as intention. Extremely complex questions can also confuse the person who is suppose to be answering them. A complex question may not get answered because the "answerer" may loose his or her sense of place.

Gary Lockwood said "a significant reason to ask good questions is to help the person you are asking. Asking well-crafted, intelligent questions causes people to think profoundly. When someone thinks more deeply than before, new ideas, new answers and new possibilities emerge".

Everyone asks questions throughout their day and life. They can be internal questions or external ones. Take for example the internal question Shall I work on this task or another? This small question will drive our actions. By making sure your internal questions are positive, you can have more impetus to move forward. A negative internal question creates a bad starting attitude and may delay your progress. Shall I work on this mind numbing task or quit for the day? Work to compose your internal questions to get the best results.

External questions such as Do you (my boss) want me to work on this assignment now?, can be altered by inflection of the voice or a significant pause. Do you want me to work on this assignment NOW? can be taken as a passive aggressive statement. So be mindful of how you present your questions as much as choosing what to ask.

When you ask questions is also an important factor. A question answered by a tired individual or someone who wants to leave the room is likely not to be as good as from someone who is refreshed and energized. Make your questions count, choose to ask them in the best possible time. When the timing is bad try to communicate at a later time. Delayed questions may still be answered, and in fact getting better results.

Spend some time over the next few weeks observing how you ask questions. Review if your questions are getting answered. See if your questions get thoughtful answer. If your answers are not clear start working on your questioning skills.

Working on our questions is a lifelong journey. In the words of Francis Bacon - "Who questions much, shall learn much, and retain much".Improve your questioning skills and improve your life.

Learn from Autumn Leaves

2011-11-15T19:04:00.001-08:00

A new neighbor of mine, recently stated to a fellow neighbor who was raking leaves. If only we had a penny for every leaf. I had never heard that particular expression before. It certainly makes for a good laugh. Something we all need when we are faced with a leaf strewn driveway and yard full of leaves.

Fall brings us leaves to rake and splendid color. Fall is a time of thanks, reflection and review. As the leaves change and the days get shorter we seem to have more time to review our lives and take stock for planning our future. Unless of course, we are tired from raking leaves.

Here is a poem that speaks to the nature of leaves.

Fall, leaves, fall;

by Emily Jane Brontë (1818 - 1848)

Fall, leaves, fall; die, flowers, away;

Lengthen night and shorten day;

Every leaf speaks bliss to me

Fluttering from the autumn tree.

I shall smile when wreaths of snow

Blossom where the rose should grow;

I shall sing when night's decay

Ushers in a drearier day.

Top photo by Joe. Bottom illustration by Kacei. Modified from 2007 posting.

Change Your Attitude

2011-11-03T09:00:00.000-07:00

Change and transition's are generally difficult. If you have been involuntarily made to change, a change of attitude may make a big difference.

Three ways to change or transition your attitude:

Try looking at things with a perspective outside of yourself.
Visualize a good outcome and rethink strategically how to get to that place.
Be grateful you have to experience this discomfort and appreciate the insightful lesson's you will learn.

Growth comes from change. Start with changing your attitude. You will enjoy the journey much more.

Read about other concepts of change

Change Your Shoulds and Coulds

2011-10-31T11:48:00.000-07:00

Are you failing to listen to the should and the could's in your life? By transforming our shoulds into "do's" and "will"s we may accomplish many things. However, sometimes our should and coulds are things we might want to avoid doing entirely.

1. Take a look at your shoulds and coulds.

Spend some time over the next few days listening to your inner talk and your external communications. Take note of the number of times you express or think the word "Should" or "Could". If you have a high frequency of shoulds or coulds, (Perhaps 5+ a day) you may want to spend some "thinking, development and planning" time around them.

2. Delve into the shoulds and coulds.

After you have listened to yourself over the last few days, you may find some frequent shoulds and coulds. Take time to jot them down in sentence form.

I should get more sleep at night
I wish I could keep my desk clear
We could buy a new car

3. Analyze your should and could's for future work and change.

Let's say you want to get more sleep. How can you go about making it come to fruition? By brainstorming you may come to some possilble solutions.

For example:

I should get more sleep - To get more sleep, go to bed earlier or stay in bed longer. The should becomes a will when you decide to go to sleep earlier or set your alarm for a later morning wake up.

We could buy a new car - Deciding to buy a new or different car, is a process and project. You may choose to get a new car when your current car reaches a certain mileage, or if maintenance fees exceed the cost of a monthly payment. Your new car might be more advantageous when you have to start driving to your new company's office (which is further away) to keep fuel costs down. A new car might make more sense after you have paid off other debts or saved a certain dollar amount. The could becomes more of a strategy and plan development when you look at the when and why components.

4. Transform your should and could's to wills, when's, why's or later decisions. If you formalize and bring these shoulds and coulds to the next phase you will allow more space for things to happen.

5. Erase your negative should and could's from your mental and verbal vocabulary. Sometimes we have stuck should and could's which can not be easily transformed into action or do not warrant further thought about.

For Example:

I should have said ..... instead of ......
I could have read the directions three times and caught my mistake (after improperly assembling a complex piece of furniture)

Spend some time working on your should and could's and you will likely transform your life.

This is a best of post from 2009

What Can You Change?

2011-10-19T13:33:00.000-07:00

Let's think about change. What can you change? Here is an A - Z list. Some of these I'll explore in subsequent posts.

Change your Attitude
Change your Behavior
Change your Communication Style
Change your Delegation Techniques
Change your Environment
Change your Finances
Change your Focus
Change your Goals
Change your Habits
Change your I's into We's
Change your Judgments
Change your Karma
Change your Listening Patterns
Change your Mission
Change your Mindset
Change your Messages
Change your No's intoYes's
Change your Outlook
Change your Patterns
Change your Perspective
Change your Position
Change your Productivity
Change your Questions
Change your Relationships
Change your Routines
Change your Should and Coulds
Change your State of Mind
Change your Strengths
Change your Thinking
Change your Time Management Practices
Change your Understanding
Change your Viewpoint
Change your Walls into Windows
Change your eXcitement Level
Change your Zen

You might also enjoy reading these past posts on change.

Listen to Grow
Winds of Change
Time to Prune
Making Headway Towards Where We Want To Go

Going Forward

2011-09-12T17:45:00.000-07:00

Researching and learning new things takes time. Often it is two steps forward and one step back. We learn in little bits and pieces.

Being willing to learn is the first step. Being willing to fail is also an important piece of learning new things.

Remember a journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step.

This is a best of post from 2009

Sunshine Ahead

2011-08-31T09:44:00.000-07:00

Summer is here. The sun is shining and everything is growing. Do you look at your life in terms of seasons or weather?

Sometimes we are growing and other times resting. Hotter weather might bring out your desires to relax, where as cold may make you want to busy about getting stuff done. The same concept can be applied to summer and winter. Are you a summer "rester" or summer "doer"?

Winds of Change

2011-08-31T09:39:00.000-07:00

Does the upcoming change of season get you excited or anxious? Seasonal change can be viewed as a happy event or one of dread. Seasonal change means preparation for new weather, events and activities. For me Autumn is my time of learning and creativity. Summer to me is my time of rest and rejuvenation. Winter is my celebration and reflection time. Spring brings me energy and excitement.

How do you view the seasonal changes?

What's your Transition Theme Song

2011-08-08T21:01:00.000-07:00

The blog Small Notebook recently had an interesting post about needing a new theme song to get out of a slump. The readers of the post left many comments with their favorites. Here is a compilation.

Firework sung by Katy Perry's

Ain't No Mountain High Enough, sung by Marvin Gaye & Tammi
Jump by Van Halen

Eye of the Tiger by Survivor - Theme - song for Rocky

Here Comes the Sun by The Beatles

New Shoes by Paolo Nutini

Shine by Rosi Golan

Beautiful Day by U2

Don't Stop Believing by Journey

I can See Clearly Now by Johnny Nash

Brand New Day by Joshua Radin

And The Birds Sing by Tyrone Wells

Why Worry by Dire Straits

What are some of your favorites?

Change sometimes Crashes In

2011-04-13T20:52:00.000-07:00

It has been very hectic here, hence the lack of postings. In the last few weeks, we have moved from the flatlands to the foothills, experienced the loss of two relatives and a very close family friend, had another relative experience a life threatening illness and hospitalization, assisted our son with his dental dilemmas, and had a car repair and a computer crash. There may be more, but I think this 4 week period will remain a blur of change in our lives for a long time.

I certainly believe that Murphy's Law is true. Anything that can go wrong will. On the bright side things seem to be getting better. Attitude is everything.

Beyond the Goal

2011-03-30T12:24:00.000-07:00

What happens when you reach your goal? While many Transition Your Life readers may not see the end or their destination at hand, I think discussing how one faces or handles this is of some importance.

When you reach your goal, this is definitely when we need to first celebrate and savor in the moment of glory. This is something we should not miss.

Secondly, we need to appreciate what we or others did to help make the goal achievable. Very few journeys are journeys of one. Sometimes upon reflection we realize others helped shape us and made contributions in ways we could not imagine. This might be the high school teacher, the motivational speaker, the neighbor down the road who always gave you a smile.

Thirdly , once the momentum of arrival and completion has slowed, I believe we need to ask ourselves some questions relating to the accomplishment of the goal. Making an immediate evaluation of what we have done has some value, but when the goal or achievement is monumental, I think taking a few weeks to ponder this might be the best choice.

Reaching your goal is a achievement which takes lots of effort and stamina. Give yourself some congratulations and savor your success.

This is a slightly revised best of post from 2010.

Being Your Own Best Friend

2011-03-23T12:22:00.000-07:00

This is a post repeated from last September 27, 2007 - but is well worth rereading any time your life gets hectic.

You can be your own best friend by:

Taking care of your mental, emotional and basic physical needs

Taking time out for yourself when you need it

Removing and extracting yourself from stress and overload

Being able to say no when you have had enough

Treating yourself as well as you treat others

Work on improving who you are on a daily basis

Asking for help and support from other friends when you need it

Being patient with yourself

When Life Gets Hectic

2011-03-14T22:11:00.000-07:00

There are certain times when life get hectic. This can be at the start of a change in your life, such as the birth of a new baby, during the course of planning or hosting a big family or work event (wedding, reunion), the moving of your household or office, serious illness of a loved one,change of a job or new employment, an intentional or unintentional remodel of your home, shopping for a big ticket item such as a car, a school or college.

1. Cut out the Extra.
During these specific "hectic" times it helps to work on reducing existing commitments, cutting back on stressful activities and saying no to new options that don't fit in. You can help reduce your stress by being observant and selective in your activities and events.

2. Enlist Help
Don't go it alone if you don't have too. Look for help in a variety of areas. This can be from friends, family members or specific "field" professionals.

3. Make sure You have Some Fun.
One important item, often overlooked, is to add in some fun or pleasurable items daily to help reduce the added tension.

4. Take Care of You
Getting enough sleep and eating healthy is also a big must. Exercise is also important, especially if your hectic occasion changes your routine.

By being aware of these four items you can help reduce your stress and make this period of your life easier.

Do you have any other ideas?

The Two Sides of Tears - Loss and Achievement

2011-03-07T23:16:00.000-08:00

Have you ever stopped to wonder about tears? We can have tears of sorrow and tears of joy. When you experience someone’s tears did you ever stop to think you could be the cause of them in a positive or negative sense?

This quote by Suresh Advaithas expresses it very well.

The biggest loss in life - Tears in someone’s eyes because of you.
Biggest achievement in life - Tears in someone’s eyes for you.

May you bring happy tears to those you know.

This is a best of post from Terry's Thinking, Terry Prince's other blog.

Are You a Short-Timer?

2011-02-21T16:26:00.000-08:00

Are you suffering from Short-Timer's Syndrome? This often happens when we are close to reaching our goal.

Originally, the term Short-Timers was applied to a syndrome observed in military soldiers who were about two to three months out from their rotation or returning home. I believe short-timer syndrome can apply to civilian and military life.

Senior Slump or Lame Duck is another way of terming this specialized short term but difficult condition. This syndrome is seen and observed in work, education or at the end of an association or officer leadership position.

Since we are almost three months from May and June, the common months of graduation and association term ends, it is a good time to take a deeper look at it. Short-timers often get burned out and are frazzled. This is because they have so much to do or accomplish in their limited time. However, short-timers need to think about their future as much as they need to enjoy the present. This is a true time of transition and transitions are never easy. Being a short-timer is hard.

Review the following and see how you approach the end of a work project, educational assignment or association position.

At Work:

When the contract or project is almost at the end -

a) I get focused and so preoccupied with the future, I don't focus well on today's project with full intent.

b) I try to be all things to all people, so I can leave a lasting "legacy". I avoid thinking about the "day after" I finish. I will think about that later.

In an Association:

When my term is almost over -

a) I begin to get the attitude of "I'll let the next person deal with it".

b) I work overly hard and start burning the candle at both ends. So much to do, so little time. I don't think about the future.

At the End of an Education Program:

When I am nearing the completion of my degree or educational program -

a) I find myself worrying about the future and I am not concentrating enough on the assignments and work I have left to do.

b) I start focusing too much on the now, and avoid thinking or doing anything in planning for my upcoming future.

What Can You Do if You Are a Short-Timer?

1) First determine what kind of short-timer you are?

2) Take a moment and view your end by the other perspective.

3) Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help you avoid burning the candle at both ends. The coach can provide some light and clarity to help you see clearer beyond the current assignment, and help you make a bright future, while still helping you focus on the now.

For Short-Timer's

Want to stay in the present? Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help guide you through these times.

For Family, Friends or Colleagues of Short-Timers

Consider giving your "short-timer" the early gift of a transition or life coaching package. This will help your short-timer shine through the end of their work and help them plan for their future.

You might also enjoy these posts - Eking It Out in The End
Senior Year and Change.

This is a best of post of 2010.

Stuck and Stagnant

2011-02-15T12:21:00.000-08:00

Life sometimes pulls us into the dismal pond of stagnation.

Stagnation is painful, messy and like quicksand can suck us down into the depths of despair. Stagnation happens to everyone at some point or another. The pond is usually stinky and the time spent in it is not pleasant. Remember it won't be forever, although, it may seem like it at the time.

How can we get out of the pond of stagnation?

1. First, realize we are in the pond!

2. Take stock of the good things going on, despite the mess we are in.

3. Take the focus off ourselves and pay attention to the world for a while. We can do this by reading a book, researching something new, by walking and taking in the scenery.

4. Smile even though we may not want to. Our smiling disposition will likely bring more positive attention to us rather than the continuity in our negative state.

5. Seek out and utilize a variety of help and guidance. This may include reconnecting to our faith, trusted friends and even seeking out the help of professionals.

How have you handled stagnation?

This is a best of post from 2009

Put Your Heart in It

2011-02-09T11:37:00.000-08:00

My friend Marilyn, once told me "It's when you have your whole heart in it - that's the key to success"!

February, is a great time to ask yourself how you can you put your "whole heart" into what you do.

Being present is one thing. That means really being where you are.

Next are the "More's":

smile more
give more
play more
work more
learn more

If you are not where your heart needs to be, then it is likely a good time evaluate "where and what" you want. This can start by trying new things or working with a life coach.

Terry now provides life coaching services.

Start The Loving Attitude

2011-02-02T15:35:00.000-08:00

February is the month for love. Here is a simple idea to transition your life and relationships.

Start to give your family the gift of your "self" this month. Smile daily, give good morning and good night hugs. Look directly into family members' eyes when you are communicating with them in person. Listen to each family member with a loving heart. Stop the mental rush in your head as well as the physical rush in your heart. This gift starts with your attitude. Practice giving the gift of your "self" this month then give this gift regularly for a lifetime.

Getting Motivated when You Aren't

2011-01-30T17:49:00.000-08:00

There are times when we are not motivated. So how does one reach into one's self and get motivated?

Decide whether it is a "must" do or "maybe I should" do.

Strong "musts" are usually easier, although the "shoulds" are usually minor tasks that weigh us down. Shoulds are sometimes precursors of "musts". In January, you may have a thought, Maybe I should start working on my taxes now. In a few months time, such as on March 31 (your accountants deadline) or on April 14, you will be saying I must work on my taxes, now!

Start working on part of "a must" at the beginning of your day. By fixing a time to start and getting on to doing it, the job then becomes doable. We can often put off doing something if we don't plan for it. By setting a plan, we can then begin to get it done.

"Maybe I Should" items are often guilt ridden or involve lots of smaller parts. If you can break down a should into it's parts, you may find it starts to seem easier. Using the tax example, it might be "collect up all my receipts", "add up my total 1099 income", "locate the tax package from the accountant", "find the mortgage interest statement", "add up my business mileage". With some small wins on a should, it often becomes an item on your to do list that eventually gets done.

Time to Prune

2011-01-26T11:07:00.000-08:00

When we need to make room for something new, pruning out the unnecessary or expired is an important task.

Having an annual pruning of your workspace is helpful to free up room, clear out the dust and recover empty space. The same applies for our house and living spaces.

What is no longer serving you? What can you prune out of your life to make room for something in the future?

You might search for dust. Dusty things have not been used in a while. You could also look for torn, worn, too small, to big or frayed. If the things in your environment are not in good shape, maybe they need to go.

Pruning allows new growth to begin. So start pruning and get ready for new beginnings and growth.

What's it all about?

2011-01-18T16:41:00.000-08:00

If you are a new viewer here at Transition Your Life, you may be wondering what this blog is all about.

This blog is about change and making transition. It is here to serve as a mental prompt or idea generator for you, when you are experiencing a life transition. This means you could also be starting on a change, in the middle of a change, or even just pondering change.

Change is what we all do. The only thing constant is change. Change is seldom easy.

When I started my blog in August of 2007, I wrote:

This Site is for testing ideas and thoughts before setting out on your next journey, whether it be a career change, new family, or even post retirement.

The goal of my site is to keep it simple, keep it short -- occasional postings under 300 words.

So I think I have been keeping up with the concept. Keep reading.

Small Steps to Getting Things Done

2011-01-12T11:43:00.000-08:00

Getting started is often the hardest part of any task. Think about some "small steps" you can do to get part of the process or project done.

One of the ways to view the task in today's modern world is to decide if your task involves Electronic Communication Activities or Non-Electronic Communications Activities. By determining this you can set the stage to begin your task. You can also steer yourself away from the electronic distractions which are more of a tendency to increase procrastination.

Electronic Communication Activities

Turn on the computer or phone
Mentally draft an outline of the conversation or email/test before you actually begin
Look up a phone number or email in your files
Get into a blank document (if you have to draft a letter) or set up an email or text
Start typing or speaking

Conversly if you don't have a "screen" or electronic task at hand, you can consider using this list of steps:

Non-Electronic Communications Activities

Turn off the computer
Turn off the cell or mobile phone
Visualize or decide what needs to be done first
Get out the tools you need to do the job
Go to the needed location
Begin your process

Ready to Go

2010-12-28T05:00:00.000-08:00

A new year is about to appear. Here is a best of post to help get you ready.

The expression Ready, Set, Go is likely an adaptation of the prompt On Your Mark, Get Set, Go used by a variety of racing fields (swimming, running) to prepare their participants for action.

We can use the Ready, Set, Go to prepare our day or even our life for upcoming changes.

Being Ready

To be ready we can prepare our tools, equipment, and even our physical being for the upcoming action. We can improve our knowledge on the subject, increase our skills and education. We can prepare our body for the upcoming physical actions or anticipated requirements by eating nutritious and healthy foods.

Getting Set

While getting set means getting on the "mark" in the physical racing world, we can get our brain on the mark, by being in the right mindset. This includes being truly focused on what is before us. By avoiding distracting veins of thought we can be instead set on our upcoming event. We can also actively work to prevent beginning conversations in our minds that get our emotional being unsettled.

Going On

The Go part of is the first step on your new path. Take a deep breath and begin. Since you have already done the Ready and the Set it is likely that the Go part will be the easiest.

Getting ready and set are by far the most important parts of making a transition. Be prepared to spend some time and do some work to fulfill the preparation of "Ready" and "Set".

Have you used Ready, Set, Go in your life transitions?

Reflecting on a Year Passing

2010-12-22T15:59:00.000-08:00

If you had to create an annual report for your past year, what would you include as completions or progress on projects?

For the past 5 years, graphic designer Nicholas Felton has been creating an annual report listing his accomplishments and statistics.

What would you like to track in your life in 2011? Here are some statistics from my current year.

Travel
States visited other than state of residence - 6
Nights spent in other than home residence - 29

Books Read
At least 90. 15 of which were reread books.

Movies Attended in Movie Theater
5

Donation Trips to Goodwill Express (personal)
7

Listen More

2010-12-16T11:06:00.000-08:00

Now is a good time for us to listen. Listen more and learn. Instead of delving right in to a conversation, spend more time in listen mode. This may give you an opportunity for deeper communications in the long run.

Being a good listener takes extra work and effort but it can pay out healthy dividends.

For some other "mores" check out my more or less post from last year.

Resizing Your World

2010-12-07T10:27:00.000-08:00

When in transition we often shrink our daily contacts down to the less stressful, more peaceful ones. We do this for self protection and to also help make our days calmer. Going through transition takes peace, quiet and often solitude.

Transition is a time to try new things and acquaint ourselves with new people and new ideas. Finding new people isn't always that easy but often times this is when we go back to our roots and seek out those who meant something to us in terms of friendship and personal and professional development. This needs to be done selectively and carefully. Missteps are abound here if you don't set personal boundaries with yourself on this adventure.

Resizing your world takes time and careful thought. Sometimes it time to shrink the contact list and other times it is time to grow and expand the list.

Whatever time it is for you, take it careful and slow. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day.

This is a best of post from 2007

At a Standstill

2010-11-29T11:06:00.000-08:00

There are times when life is at a standstill - the ball not being our your court. Standstill is defined as
a state characterized by absence of motion or of progress. It is truly a time of waiting.and waiting is not always easy.

Practice Patience
Practice patience by the day, hour or minute.

Focus on Other Things
By changing our focus we can hold off the waiting item. It no longer holds such a power over our mind.

Do Something Fun.
Make cookies, listen to your favorite music, take a walk around your neighborhood.

While your project or life may be on a standstill, you don't have to be. Make this time a time of opportunities instead of a time of waiting.

Look to Learn

2010-11-24T11:15:00.000-08:00

What does looking elsewhere have to do with transition? Sometimes we focus too much on inner selves that we neglect to take a good look at the environment and people around us.

Here is a reminder:

Look at People
Who are the people who make your day special? They can be your family members, friends, neighbors and of course your pets. People can also be the providers of service we routinely count on. By focusing on them instead of our "self" we can change our attitude, learn new things and move forward.

Look at Places
Take some time to observe where you are. Look at the buildings, trees and sky. Our visual senses can bring us great relief from every day sameness. Look with new "eyes" and really see where you are.

Look at Things
Spend some time looking at your surroundings with deeper vision. Really look at the mug on your desk. Observe the stapler. Contemplate your phone. When we look with intent we often see things in a brand new light.

Looking elsewhere is one of the ways to make a transition in your thoughts, attitude and mindset.

Another method is by listening. You may find this previous post about sound helpful. Stillness and Silence.

Let me know how some of these exercises go in transitioning your mind.

This is a best of post, enjoy the holidays.

Late Versus Early

2010-11-18T00:18:00.000-08:00

Are you an owl or a lark? Knowing and accepting your natural tendencies can help you be more productive. Owls are night creatures and larks are those who take advantage of the early day and mornings. We are usually one or the other.

Observe who you are - a lark or owl. Accept it and delight in your being.

Work to schedule your activities and tasks around your natural tendencies. Don't create unnecessary work for yourself by planning against your nature.

Understand and acknowledge the owl or lark tendencies of your friends and family members. Don't expect deep conversation from an owl early in the day, or late night discussions with a lark later in the day. Accept the morning or evening tendencies of your friends, co-workers and family. Learn to work with them by their style instead of trying to make them someone they are not.

By working with your true nature as well as others, you will be more incline to be the productive and accepting person you want to be.

Time to Listen

2010-11-10T21:07:00.001-08:00

This is a Best of Post - but well worth repeating!

Change is hard, listening may be even harder. When we are changing we may find ourselves having to find more time to listen. Listening takes energy.

Finding the right people to listen to is not easy. Missteps are usually found along this path. The best method for selecting good "listening" is to go with your intuition. Listening to a person who is soothing might be good, yet they can lull us into a stasis, state of complacency or even a paralysis of indecision. Listening to someone who causes us major anxiety may not be a good choice either. However, sometimes the individual's who causes us minor anxiety and inner turmoil are helping us develop new thoughts, thinking patterns and helping us change.

Listen to learn, listen to grow. Change will come.

Who do you plan on listening to?

Things of the Past

2010-10-29T11:29:00.000-07:00

Time to clear out the dusty and old, to make room for the new. Today, I am looking at how to handle past office and business material. Business owners who have been in business for over 10 years, know that the material starts to acquire. This is especially true if you haven't changed your office location in over 5 years. The following might help you when clearing out the past from your office.

Non Serving Usage
Outdated expired, no longer relevant items come to mind. I ran across a hidden pile of blank outdated forms. These found a home in the recycling bin.

Former Client Files and Material
If you have been in business a while, it is likely you understand the value of record retention. I have a five year client policy. However sometimes material is a useful template or example for other things. This is where a template vs. a client file becomes of value. Transitioning files over to templates, maintains your record retention plan and helps you understand the importance of what you have learned, created or observed.

Example/Template Files
Even example or template files can become overwhelming or overfilled. Periodic clearings can help prevent overload.

Aging Technology
I recently disposed of a plethora of floppy disks containing financial information. Of course, I had to make them unusable first - this took time. Some never used disks I donated to my community through freecycle.

Historical Reminders
Not all old items are unwanted. I ran across an old newsletter from an association that had a wealth of memories, and brought up a few "I need to call that person" notes to add to my to do list. After I added that, it was easy to toss the material. Sometimes I found information that was useful for my business time line. So I placed that in my time line pile. Stay tune for more on this in the next few months.

Historically Significant
Occasionally you may run across some items of ephemera, that might be of value to your community or business community. It helps to understand the concept of ephemera. Check out my article on my website for information on this topic.

By keeping the above in mind, you may have an easier time of clearing out. Business Anniversaries are a cause for celebration, and a good time to make time to clear out the past, to make room for the new.

October is Terry Prince's business anniversary month. Terry started her business in October of 1983.

Shoulds and Coulds - Time to Revisit

2010-10-22T12:56:00.000-07:00

Last year, I wrote a post about shoulds and coulds - I think it is a good time of year to visit it again.

Are you failing to listen to the should and the could's in your life? By transforming our shoulds into "do's" and "will"s we may accomplish many things. However, sometimes our should and coulds are things we might want to avoid doing entirely.

1. Take a look at your shoulds and coulds

Spend some time over the next few days listening to your inner talk and your external communications. Take note of the number of times you express or think the word "Should" or "Could". If you have a high frequency of shoulds or coulds, (Perhaps 5+ a day) you may want to spend some "thinking, development and planning" time around them.

2. Delve into the shoulds and coulds

After you have listened to yourself over the last few days, you may find some frequent shoulds and coulds. Take time to jot them down in sentence form.

I should get more sleep at night
I wish I could keep my desk clear
We could buy a new car

3. Analyze your should and could's for future work and change.

Let's say you want to get more sleep. How can you go about making it come to fruition? By brainstorming you may come to some possilble solutions.

For example:

I should get more sleep - To get more sleep, go to bed earlier or stay in bed longer. The should becomes a will when you decide to go to sleep earlier or set your alarm for a later morning wake up.

We could buy a new car - Deciding to buy a new or different car, is a process and project. You may choose to get a new car when your current car reaches a certain mileage, or if maintenance fees exceed the cost of a monthly payment. Your new car might be more advantageous when you have to start driving to your new company's office (which is further away) to keep fuel costs down. A new car might make more sense after you have paid off other debts or saved a certain dollar amount. The could becomes more of a strategy and plan development when you look at the when and why components.

4. Transform your should and could's to wills, when's, why's or later decisions. If you formalize and bring these shoulds and coulds to the next phase you will allow more space for things to happen.

5. Erase your negative should and could's from your mental and verbal vocabulary. Sometimes we have stuck should and could's which can not be easily transformed into action or do not warrant further thought about.

For Example:

I should have said ..... instead of ......
I could have read the directions three times and caught my mistake (after improperly assembling a complex piece of furniture)

Spend some time working on your should and could's and you will likely transform your life.

Starting Something New

2010-10-15T21:19:00.000-07:00

It is not always easy starting something new. This comes about as I am actively telling myself that phrase, "it's not always easy to start something new". I am doing this about three times an hour, while I work at understanding a new email marketing newsletter program. I know I need to make some positive self talk phrases instead. So that would be the fifth strategy when working on something new.

Work in scheduled bursts
Take planned breaks
Incorporate more humor into your schedule
Make sure you get some regular physical exercise
Use positive self talk - Avoid negative self talk

Do you have some strategies to make starting something new easier?

Hot or Cold?

2010-10-07T00:53:00.000-07:00

When examining your life you can measure your progress towards your goals in a number of ways. Today let's consider using hot and cold. Since we are in the season of neither summer or winter (in any hemisphere) I think we can address this in a temperature model.

Let's think of "hot" as being something you gravitate towards, and "cold" being something you want to leave or escape from.

What do you have going on that you feel "hot" about? Conversely what do you feel "cool" about? By gauging your temperature towards an activity or event you may make choices that move you closer towards your future goals.

Getting In The Flow

2010-09-27T21:25:00.000-07:00

Achieving flow? What does that mean to you? To me it means gaining momentum, getting beyond the beginning and feeling content where you are. Being in the flow is what makes projects and pursuits satisfying and enjoyable.

There are two ways to look at your complex tasks. It is a potential flow activity or is it a non-flow activity? Knowing what types of projects have "flow" in your life is a beginning. Conversely, knowing what projects or efforts are usually non flowing may aid you in accepting the lack of flow.By acknowledging your activities this way, you can begin to shape and design flow diversity to your day or week.

On occasion your frequent flow activities may wane. This could be due to a block or external factors influencing your ability to achieve normal achievement or processes. Writer's block is a good example of when the "flow" goes astray. Getting back into the flow is a topic for another post. Stay tuned.

Blank Books

2010-09-22T11:08:00.000-07:00

Have you ever considered journal keeping or maintaining a notebook of ideas?

There are lots of "blank books" available to purchase and utilize as the keeper of your memories, dreams or aspirations. Using a book instead of a computer may be beneficial for those who process their thoughts while writing. The blank book is portable and does not need power or a battery to sustain itself. The "blank book" can be a great escape after spending hours at the computer screen.

The Stuff That You Own

2010-09-09T23:50:00.000-07:00

I have been thinking about stuff, getting prepared for my upcoming NSGCD teleclass. While some chronically disorganized people are likely to have an emotional attachment to their belongings and would find this exercise very difficult, those with normal organizational abilities might find it useful or thought provoking.

One could use the categorizing concept of Hot or Cold - hot being more inclined to using or wanting it. Cold being more likely to be discarded. You could also use the Love it, Hate it approach. Loving it being a keep and hate it a toss. Another option would be the Numbers 1 - 5. One (1) being a keep it, and five (5) being a toss it.

Those mid-value "warms" and "3's" are likely to be difficult, but to take it further - would they be among your take with you items if you left your environment due to an impending flood or raging wildfire approaching your neighborhood?

Many years ago I read the story by T. Coraghessan Boyle (T C Boyles) - Filthy with Things. The New Yorker (February 15, 1993): 76-87., where a woman came in and worked to declutter a fully packed household - and declared that her client's needed to clear out their home, get it inventoried and could only have 100 things brought back in.

What would your 100 "stuff" things be?

Would they be practical or creative?

Practical List
Bed
Table
4 chairs
2 Arm chair
2 Ottoman

Creative List

4 loved works of art
1 guitar
1 bottle of favorite perfume
5 favorite books

or would you put together a mix of both?

September - Green and Growing

2010-09-01T17:54:00.000-07:00

Many years ago, a mentor of mine gave me a plant and said "Keep Green and Growing". This advice seems to speak to me especially at the start of each September. September, after all, is the month of sharpened pencils, fresh notebooks and the fresh start drive to learn something new.

Make education a part of your life by reading, exploring new ideas and trends. Sharpen your writing skills by evaluating your past written materials. Can you upgrade your writing or be more concise? Evaluation is as much a part of learning as is exploring new things.

This September, I plan to be learning more about how we acquire, hold on to stuff and let go of stuff. This is part of my getting prepared for a presentation in October on The Possession Cycle.

What are you planning on learning this month?

This is a revisit of a September 2007 post.

Opening The Door

2010-08-30T15:14:00.000-07:00

One of my readers, recently commented privately to me, that "sometimes you need to open the door when you hit the wall".

"Opening the Door" means looking out at new options and opportunities. It can also mean taking a look outside for awhile and then deciding to step back to where you feel comfortable and at home. Sometimes it is nothing ventured, nothing gained. Then again, it can be a useful exercise to review and analyze where you are now.

Check out my earlier post on Hitting the Wall.

Hitting the Wall

2010-08-16T17:37:00.000-07:00

Every once in a while we hit a wall in our life. Hitting the wall means we have reached an impasse without a "door" or "window". This is when we have to backtrack, change our attitude or stay within the confines of our current situation. However, staying within the confines of our restricted space for a prolonged time may not be beneficial for our mental health.

We can hit the wall due to employment limitations, current circle of friends, relationship changes, or even environmental limitations. Think people places or things! All of these three categories can contribute to hitting the wall.

Acknowledging that you have hit the wall is the first step. Being patience with yourself is critical at this time. Looking for alternative solutions may take longer than you hoped for. It may also be not the choice you want to choose, but one that is the best for you in the long run. Most importantly remember change takes time and is a challenge.

Examining Your Hobby

2010-08-13T11:03:00.000-07:00

I've been discussing hobbies on my blogs lately. After some more thinking, I believe hobbies come in four distinct types.

Creation: Creation hobbies are those that involve crafting, builiding, designing

Collection: Collection hobbies are those that involve locating, cataloging, displaying, discussing

Observation: Observation hobbies are those activities that involve watching or attending as in the theater, art shows, museums, auto races, or ball games

Participation: Participation hobbies are those activities that involve doing such as dancing, running, photographing, singing, playing an instrument, or acting

There are no rules for hobbies. There are no right or wrong activities. Hobby selection is what works for you at your time, energy level or financial situation in life.

Sometimes we may participate in a hobby for many years until an injury or reduced physical sense comes in to play. We may then transition to being an observer. Conversely, we may be an observer and affectionado for many years until we have the time to commit to becoming an active participant.

Some hobbies involve a crossover between the four types. Travel is one example. Travel can be thought of as an observe and participate activity. When traveling we often choose to observe others performing different activities not seen in our usual daily life.

Now might be a good time to list your hobbies and see where you are in terms of the four categories.

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Look for Dust
Renewing an Old Hobby

Look For Dust

2010-08-11T12:22:00.000-07:00

Coming back after vacation is disheartening and refreshing. At first one may welcome one's bed and then one may face a mountain of snail and email.

This is a good time to look for dust - dust in your life. What is no longer serving you?

Do you have piles of books and magazines that are unread, or conversely read and no longer necessary? Spend some time culling out the piles. This will help you see new opportunities ahead.

Check out your closet, do you see clothes no longer worn or cared for. These are great for donations to charity.

What about activities you no longer care to do? Do you have a retired hobby or uncared for collection. Reduce these former treasures to make space for your life today.

Making Today Fun

2010-07-30T04:00:00.000-07:00

Let's talk about having fun. Fun is something we all need to take seriously. After all, all work and no play is what makes a day dull and us boring.

How can you have fun Today? How can you make fun everyday a priority? Having fun is different for each of us. For some it may be reading a book, watching a favorite TV show, going for a walk or spending time talking on the phone to a friend or family member.

It is important to set some time for fun when we are overloaded with a long "to do list" or complex project. It may seem like a misuse of our time but the "fun break" or "Fun out" will make us more productive in the long run.

When we schedule in fun, we maintain a good balance in our life.

So what fun are you planning today?

This is a best of post from 2009 because Terry is currently out having fun.

Smile More

2010-07-21T04:00:00.000-07:00

Smiles are contagious. They can help you maintain a sunny disposition and also have the effect of making people respond to you in a positive rather than negative way.

We may forget to smile when we are in a hurry or at the end of the day when we are tired. It is hard to smile when we are sad, but when dealing with strangers and other people, a smile may help brighten the day and provide us a friendlier environment in which to communicate or work in.

Here is a Lego smiley man to help you remember to smile more.

Another Desk Vacation

2010-07-14T04:00:00.000-07:00

Last year, I featured some visual odyssey websites that allow you to take a mini vacation without leaving your desk. I've located some new locations for you to go visit and have listed some of last year's favorites.

First, get ready to go on your mini vacation and empty your email in box, clear out your voice mails. Tidy the area around your desk and shred any needing to be shredded documents. These tasks makes you productive although it may take you a while. After you have done these tasks you will certainly be ready to go.

Here are this year's desk vacation locations:

Note - All these are personal essays with wonderful photography that may make you feel you are in the specific location.

Northern California - Write On Time - Traveling Tuesdays - trip option to:
Salmon Lake California,
Point Reyes, California
San Francisco, California

Maine - Maine cottage from Sesame and Lilies

Virginia - James River, Surrey County from Haven on Hanover

Italy - Tuscany Beach Trip from Villa Pacis

Canada - A trip to Vancouver from Windlost

On the list, last year - but well worth a return trip:

Greece - Santorini from Oia Santorini

Happy Traveling.

Waiting and Anticipating

2010-07-07T15:00:00.000-07:00

Sometimes life means waiting and anticipating. Anticipation affects us within our head, body and heart at the time. We can have negative feelings in regards to upcoming changes and challenges or we can have a positive and motivated outlook. We can also have a blend of all these things.

I recall waiting for our brand new construction house to be completed. We would visit the building site almost daily to see what new components had been started or finished. I was anticipating the move in process, setting up the house, and having life and living go back to "normal" instead of being in a temporary waiting phase of life. Even now when I look back those three months (I know we were fortunate...others may have to wait years on home construction projects) seemed like the longest in my entire life.

Waiting takes it's toll, but it is our attitude that makes the difference. We can wait with patience, or wait in anger and frustration. Waiting isn't everything that is going on in our life. We can try to enjoy a portion of our day or time by refocusing on daily pleasures and activities.

Handling the Holidays

2010-06-30T17:19:00.000-07:00

Holidays and vacations are a big transition from the daily grind. Taking a holiday sometimes seems like work, especially if there is a lot of planning of the vacation and departure activity.

Holiday's can create crunch times in their preparation stages. A few years ago I planned a lengthy journey to England. This involved lots of advance planning and a minutia of details. In a while, I will start planning another big trip and I am at a bit of a loss to figure out how to make it better.

1) Take the planning one part at a time.

2) Don't expect every detail to be perfect.

3) Accept the concept that at least three things are suppose to go wrong with any big plan.

4) Follow the Crunch Time guidelines.

Crunch Time

2010-06-28T13:17:00.000-07:00

Almost everyone and every industry has it's crunch time. For some it is at the end of the fiscal year or quarter. Others might find that their crunch time is a few weeks before the big scheduled event. Regardless of what the cause of the "crunch", it is always a good idea to look at the handling and management of the crunch.

Take some formal time to review all of the necessary steps
Do some calendering of required activities
Build in some extra time for the unknown problems. They are bound to arise.
Insert some time for taking breaks. Breaks can help reduce stress and keep you healthy.
Close and celebrate. You and your team deserve it.
Evaluate and make changes and workable adaptations for the next time.
Get your future crunch time scheduled on your calendar and protect it by excluding unnecessary tasks or chores during this time.

What is Next? Beyond the Goal.

2010-06-17T12:13:00.000-07:00

Is your achievement as you expected?
What lessons did you learn?
What if anything would you do different?
What in this specific achievement might be the lesson that is the first step on the next journey?
Who else might you thank?
Is there anyone who might be encouraged or educated, who is working towards similar goals?

Today the 1000 day sea project reaches it's destination. While the journey has been unique and offbeat, this might be a good a perfect timely example of how one needs to handle an achievement.

Falling Behind and Running Ahead

2010-06-09T12:10:00.001-07:00

There are days when we think we are "ahead" and days when we are falling "behind". On the best of days we are right where we are suppose to be.

Here are some strategies to help you:

When you are Ahead

First, mentally acknowledge yourself for being at the "ahead" stage rather than the "behind" phase. Second, take some time to build in a well earned break. Third, review the elements of your success. Sometimes we have developed new skills that have allowed us to move forward. Glean these as takeaways for the future.

When you are Behind

First take a deep breath, acknowledge where you are. Realize that this will not be forever.Second, spend some time working on strategies. How you might speed up, or move your project along? Sometimes we have to pull out of other unnecessary or less important activities to reach a project goal.Third, seek help. Many times we fall behind because we fail to enlist help. Sometimes that is what we need to move forward.

Celebrate Today

2010-05-31T14:53:00.000-07:00

Three things to keep in mind, today and every day. While seemingly simple to write, these actions are not necessarily easy to do. Often in the rush of every day, we lose track of these important components of having a life full of quality.

1) Celebrate every day
2) Make life fun by being fun
3) Live most of each day in the present

Are You Real Today?

2010-05-14T14:03:00.000-07:00

One of the many blogs I read had a post about being "real". By this they meant the "you" without the make-up or the fancy photo shopped face we put up on our blogs, Facebook, or utilize as our avatar.

Here is the real me today:

What this lesson taught me, and what I will convey to you is:

1) Appreciate the real you
2 Don't take yourself so seriously
3) It is OK to step outside of your comfort zone.

What "real" lessons have you learned lately?

The Excuses that Keep The Clutter Around

2010-05-11T11:39:00.000-07:00

There are some statements that are big signs or signals of clutter lurking about. Have you recently said this about an object?

I just need to fix it
Maybe I will need it someday
It use to work well
If the new one breaks, I will still have a backup
I can wear it for painting or washing the car (two is plenty)

It is time to lighten up, or fix it. Now is the time to get rid of the excuses. Get rid of the clutter that is hampering your life.

So what are you going to do?

When doing Less is Best

2010-05-04T16:37:00.000-07:00

Last Post, I discussed when doing more is better, this week I am taking on when doing less is best. So when should we do less?

There are times when doing less is an excellent strategy. Conversely doing more is often a good one.

So how do you choose?

Do less when you the task at hand is not important

Do more when the task at hand is important

Do less when you ahead of schedule, do more when you are behind

Do more at the end, and less at the beginning.

Do More than Expected

2010-04-26T14:24:00.000-07:00

Sometimes doing more is a great way to get ahead. Sometimes life throws you a curve and you end up doing more. Sometimes more is just fun.

Why do more?

Because you can
Because it is a challenge to yourself.
It may be an opportunity to excel
It may make it better.

Take some time to think about how you can do more.

One Thousand Days at Sea is now at eleven hundred days at sea - more has been done.

Stay tuned for a post on When Doing Less is Best.

Feeling Rusty and Dented

2010-04-21T17:20:00.000-07:00

Looking to feel shiny and new? Yet, instead, are you finding yourself feeling rusty and dented? Here are some past posts to start the shine and push out the dents.

Take little steps towards your future

Look elsewhere

Seek to enjoy all things

Get your creativity cooking

Keep calm and carry on

Being positive in a negative world

Listen to grow

Get ready to be ready

Finding Joy - Mental and Physical Realignment

2010-04-12T08:15:00.000-07:00

I've been reading the book - How to Get A Life That Doesn't Suck by Michelle DeAngelis. It is a book full of strategies and self-help suggestions. Published in 2008, this book is reminds me of Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction - Laura Berman Fortgand and Life Makeover by Cheryl Richardson.

Cheryl Richardson's book gives you an exercise to do each week for a one year period. Laura Berman Fotgang gives you 90 days, whereas Michelle DeAngeleis offers to take you on a three part ride to obtain joy that you can work on over time.

What I really like about the DeAngelis book is the BE YOUR BEST charts on page 106 and 107. These charts look at body, mind and spirit. They provide great self-care strategies that one can pick up and run with. Also helpful is the "Get Back on Track" recommendations that are included throughout the book.

Michelle's book Get A Life That Doesn't Suck is well written, but what I found confusing was the mixed joy metaphor that went over to joy riding, test driving examples, and use of the back on track concept. In addition, when added to the cover lemon concept of getting a life that does't suck, I found myself getting very confused. Maybe a better title for this book would have been The Ride of Your Life - finding your joy and loving the ride.

DeAngelis suggests getting rid of the physical and mental clutter in your life, Cheryl Richardson also suggests reducing the physical clutter by creating space and cleaning your office space. Laura Berman Fortgang has many helpful exercises that look at mental clutter in part one of her book, although the word clutter is not actually used.

So, if you are looking to find some joy and wanting to realign your life consider reading any of these three books. You may also want to consider using a transition or life coach to help you on your journey.

Giving a Remarkable Thank You!

2010-04-03T15:13:00.000-07:00

Over the years, I have received some wonderful thank you notes. The nicest are words that serve as embers to bring light to dark days. Some are trinkets and tokens.

One of the tokens I received was a red lantern from a fellow patient and his partner. In my early twenties, I was hospitalized with an extremely complicated allergic reaction to an antibiotic medicine. The ward I was placed on was a non-surgical ward. Here I made the acquaintance of a fellow patient. We spent many hours in deep conversation about life and living. Neither of us was sure if we were going to "get" better. My fellow patient was released a few days before I was. Just before they left, these wonderful people told me "I had lit the way for his recovery" They gave me a lantern, of which at the time I said, "Oh, thanks". I am sure I had a strange look on my face, but they said, "Someday you will understand, thanks for lighting the way".

Another was a great "To Do" list thank you that was printed on a large "To Do" pad. The listed item said Things to do - Thank Terry. I really treasure this thank you note because it shows how someone used the time management concepts in action. It was truly touching to me, personally and professionally.

The purpose of my telling these two stories are not to promote me, but to let you begin to think about how you can make your thank you notes and tokens remarkable and memorable to your recipients.

So who can you thank?

Thank the leaders and active volunteers of your associations and organizations who serve.
Thank the server or cashier who smiles, does his or her job with care and enthusiasm.
Thank you spouse or loved one who goes that extra special distance for you.
Thank your long time friends for the joy they bring to your life.

Preventing Short-Timer's Syndrome

2010-03-27T16:11:00.000-07:00

Are you suffering from Short-Timer's Syndrome? This often happens when we are close to reaching our goal.

Originally, the term Short-Timers was applied to a syndrome observed in military soldiers who were about two to three months out from their rotation or returning home. I believe short-timer syndrome can apply to civilian and military life.

Senior Slump or Lame Duck is another way of terming this specialized short term but difficult condition. This syndrome is seen and observed in work, education or at the end of an association or officer leadership position.

Since we are almost two months from May and June, the common months of graduation and association term ends, it is a good time to take a deeper look at it. Short-timers often get burned out and are frazzled. This is because they have so much to do or accomplish in their limited time. However, short-timers need to think about their future as much as they need to enjoy the present. This is a true time of transition and transitions are never easy. Being a short-timer is hard.

Review the following and see how you approach the end of a work project, educational assignment or association position.

At Work:

When the contract or project is almost at the end -

a) I get focused and so preoccupied with the future, I don't focus well on today's project with full intent.

b) I try to be all things to all people, so I can leave a lasting "legacy". I avoid thinking about the "day after" I finish. I will think about that later.

In an Association:

When my term is almost over -

a) I begin to get the attitude of "I'll let the next person deal with it".

b) I work overly hard and start burning the candle at both ends. So much to do, so little time. I don't think about the future.

At the End of an Education Program:

When I am nearing the completion of my degree or educational program -

a) I find myself worrying about the future and I am not concentrating enough on the assignments and work I have left to do.

b) I start focusing too much on the now, and avoid thinking or doing anything in planning for my upcoming future.

What Can You Do if You Are a Short-Timer?

1) First determine what kind of short-timer you are?

2) Take a moment and view your end by the other perspective.

3) Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help you avoid burning the candle at both ends. The coach can provide some light and clarity to help you see clearer beyond the current assignment, and help you make a bright future, while still helping you focus on the now.

For Short-Timer's

Want to stay in the present? Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help guide you through these times.

For Family, Friends or Colleagues of Short-Timers

Consider giving your "short-timer" the early gift of a transition or life coaching package. This will help your short-timer shine through the end of their work and help them plan for their future.

You might also enjoy these posts - Eking It Out in The End
Senior Year and Change.

Changing Your Attitude

2010-03-25T20:03:00.000-07:00

This is a post from last year - but well worth repeating!

Change and transition's are generally difficult. If you have been involuntarily made to change, a change of attitude may make a big difference.

Three ways to change or transition your attitude:

Try looking at things with a perspective outside of yourself.
Visualize a good outcome and rethink strategically how to get to that place.
Be grateful you have to experience this discomfort and appreciate the insightful lesson's you will learn.

Growth comes from change. Start with changing your attitude. You will enjoy the journey much more.

Try Reading Something Different

2010-03-11T21:10:00.000-08:00

Readers all have their favorite genres or topics that they gravitate towards. I think it is a good idea to step outside your "reading" comfort zone from time to time and find somethng "else" to read.

Recently, I picked up Flotsametics and the Floating World which discusses the career of a oceanographer. The book Flotsametics gives insight into beachcoming, gyre patterns and a variety of other interesting topics around ocean drift patterns and floating objects. I also read The American Leonardo, the true story of the legal battles around a painting that may or may not be a Leonardo da Vinci. The book and tale reminds me of the fictional Dickensian novel, Bleak House and the endless legal case - going on and on, with no one being better off at the end. Perhaps my favorite recent "outside my reading box" book was The Island of Lost Maps, a true story of cartographic crime. I found this an amazingly fascinating true tale.

By stepping out of our reading comfort zone, we may discover new things, explore new ideas, and look at the world with a different perspective.

What are you reading?

Beneath the Surface - Growing Ideas

2010-03-04T12:27:00.000-08:00

There are times when we may think nothing is happening. We are living a fallow life - in our rut, a big one. Yet, beneath the surface, we are germinating new thoughts, coming up with ideas, learning helpful skills and processes that will soon raise up and come forth in a new concept.

Here are some visual concepts to get you thinking:

A coffee maker percolating, after a short while it will be ready.
A bud unfurling on a tree in springtime.
Underneath the ground a seed is breaking out of it's coat ready to grow.
The dying embers of something else that will soon become a new steady flame.

What's happening beneath your surface?

Unproductive Times Again

2010-02-19T13:22:00.000-08:00

This is a repeat post - but it is one that I think truly needs to be remembered and put out there again and again. So it's time to check in and see if you or your clients are in an Unproductive Phase of Life.

While working towards being productive is taking a step in the right direction. Working on being organized and expecting magnificent and tangible results are unrealistic during certain phases or periods of time. I think it helps us to acknowledge when we are in these unproductive times. This acceptance of the situation makes us or the client calmer and more relaxed. This new state of mind then sets the foundation for future productivity efforts.

Know to identify the Unproductive Phases of Life
Having a child in ½ day kindergarten and being the designated driver to pick up and drop off

Those 2 – 3 days waiting for definitive biopsy or health test results

Your third trimester during pregnancy

During a home remodeling project

A parent having 3 children under age 5

Immediately 1 – 12 months after having surgery

A new parent having just born or adopted a child

The year you handle a family, friend or relatives estate

The first 6 months to 9 months after a move

Six months to two years after the breakup of a significant relationship

Serving as primary caretaker to a chronically ill or declining family member

The year following the death of a loved one or friend

Taxing Times Again

2010-02-15T02:00:00.000-08:00

Are you facing taxing times? Certain times of the year are more difficult than others. For me, getting ready for taxes is always like having a big monkey on my back until the tax prep material is delivered to the CPA's office.

I usually chunk my "tax" monkey into small bites. This makes the overwhelming project seem like a possibility. The last part or the "tail of the monkey" for me is adding up the charitable donations. I guess I should be making something which is actually positive more so. But at least I know to chunk my monkey and take occasional breaks. Using a timer allows me to limit the "pain" of the process and also sets some specific time parameters for me to complete the task.

So what is all this to do about transitions? I think I need to take my own advice and put a positive spin on doing the difficult parts. Some things are just taxing. By acknowledging that we are likely one step forward toward completion.

So how do you deal with taxing times or tasks?

Routine Reflections

2010-02-07T10:42:00.001-08:00

Do you take time to reflect on your past activities, actions or inaction's?

Many individuals have routine times that help encourage reflection. For some it might be the stillness of being in church or temple. For others, it is when they attend a weekly meeting of a group or association. It can also be during an exercise or fitness class.

During this period of specific reflection, one can gauge progress or lack of progress on certain life goal activities with ourselves as well as reflect on our actions or inaction towards these goals.

Let me point out, that this is very different from a calendar review which many do on Friday's, Sunday's or Monday's. Routine reflection is instead a bigger picture process that reflects on major goals.

If you haven't tried this concept of routine reflection, this might be a good practice to start. Pick a time, that is a fairly standard constant in your life, and take a few moments out each time to reflect. You may not do it perfectly at first, but beginning is the first step. Once you have done it a few times it is likely to prove it's value to your life.

Personally, for many years I arrived early to my Toastmaster's meeting. I did this so I could spend some time in reflection. I believe it was a key component to my ability to succeed.

When do you do your Routine Reflection?

Making Headway Towards Where We Want To Go

2010-02-06T13:28:00.000-08:00

To make headway is to go forward or towards our desired destination. Getting towards our destination is usually reached by doing physical activities and actions. Yet, getting to where we want to go, often starts in the mind or "head". Thus to make headway, we may often need to first think or use our head as much as taking our physical steps.

I recently came across this quote attributed to Henry David Thoreau.

As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.

So, to make headway start with your mind, your steps are likely to follow.

An End is Really A Beginning

2010-01-22T12:44:00.000-08:00

Throughout our lives we have endings. These endings can be the end of a job, relationship, or even the way we do something. Endings are usually messy. They are never really clean cut, neat or organized. Very few endings are easy. Endings, of course, are the end, but they are also the onset of the beginning.

To get a handle on endings, the first step is to realize you are at the "end". By having a mental conversation with yourself, you are beginning the process of your grieving. I am not saying you have to like this conversation, but once you begin it, you are on your way.

The stages of grief are well outlined by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. Kübler-Ross's five stages are not nice and neat but often involve meandering around in one stage or another.

Getting back to the beginning, one may grieve, but one also learns many new things during this end and beginning phase of life. This is the time in our life that causes us to try new things, experience new thoughts and make changes in our daily routines and patterns. This is not to say it is going to be all fun. If we can, however, imagine the opportunities we now have to unexpectedly experience, we may be able to think of the end as an unexpected gift. Perhaps this is the only gift to come out of loss. But it is a gift, none the less.

1000 Days at Sea - An Adventure for All

2010-01-14T20:37:00.000-08:00

I have been enjoying the adventures of the 1000 Days at Sea Team ever since July of 2007. That was about Day 80 or so days into the ocean going adventure that officially began Day one leaving New York Harbor in April 23,2007.

The premise of this extended ocean journey has been to circumnavigate the globe on a boat (A 70 foot schooner) without stopping, restocking or resupplying for a thousand days. It has been a life long ambition of sailor Reid Stowe.

While this journey like many, hasn't quite turned out as expected,it has been an adventure non-the-less with lots of interesting twists and turns of events. The schooner is now expected to return to New York in June of 2010.

What I have liked is watching the path of the Schooner Anne on Google Earth, discovering weather overlays and exploring surrounding land areas I had no real knowledge of before. In the early days, photos of the adventure were posted by Soanya. It was amazing to see how many shades of blue there were. When Soanya left the journey (about day 300) the photos were still posted but not with her practiced eye. Reid, however soon filled in the space with his art and interesting stories and reflections.

Recently, the several times weekly posts have decreased due to computer problems. Regardless, it is always interesting to read the updates and check out the Schooner Anne's position on Google Earth.

By following and understanding the components of an adventure that is not our, it can suddenly seem to become partly our own life and experiences. It can be a great break in our day to follow an epic journey or a time period progression (see The Uniform Project). It can be a window into a world that we never knew existed. It can be the catalyst for our own future adventures.

Other post on the Transition Your Life Blog about 1000 Days at Seas Adventure

900 Days at Sea
Take A Desk Vacation
Seek to Enjoy All Things
600 Days at Sea
300 Days at Sea
Remote Island...Very Remote

Get Ready to Be Ready

2010-01-11T12:26:00.000-08:00

The expression Ready, Set, Go is likely an adaptation of the prompt On Your Mark, Get Set, Go used by a variety of racing fields (swimming, running) to prepare their participants for action.

We can use the Ready, Set, Go to prepare our day or even our life for upcoming changes.

Being Ready

To be ready we can prepare our tools, equipment, and even our physical being for the upcoming action. We can improve our knowledge on the subject, increase our skills and education. We can prepare our body for the upcoming physical actions or anticipated requirements by eating nutritious and healthy foods.

Getting Set

While getting set means getting on the "mark" in the physical racing world, we can get our brain on the mark, by being in the right mindset. This includes being truly focused on what is before us. By avoiding distracting veins of thought we can be instead set on our upcoming event. We can also actively work to prevent beginning conversations in our minds that get our emotional being unsettled.

Going On

The Go part of is the first step on your new path. Take a deep breath and begin. Since you have already done the Ready and the Set it is likely that the Go part will be the easiest.

Getting ready and set are by far the most important parts of making a transition. Be prepared to spend some time and do some work to fulfill the preparation of "Ready" and "Set".

Have you used Ready, Set, Go in your life transitions?

A New Decade Begins - Questions to Ponder

2010-01-06T13:21:00.000-08:00

Its 2010, the start of a new decade. Now is a perfect time to make changes and move forward. Before we jump forward into something new, it usually helps to look back.

Here are some positive focused questions to think about. Think of each of the questions in terms of the last ten years and your experiences.

Decade Reflection Questions

What worked over the last ten years?

What are you most happy about having achieved, managed or maintained?

What were some of the best conversations you had?

What were some of the best books you read?

What were some of the best movies, plays or museum or art exhibits you experienced?

What new things or skills did you learn?

Who did you enjoy meeting, being with and spending time with?

Where were you most environmentally comfortable?

Bonus Questions - How did your senses experience the last decade?

Evaluating the Answers

When we look back we can sometimes glean patterns, or glimmers of thing that excite us. When we know what makes us want to get up and fully enjoy the day we can start shaping our lives to have more of this excitement. By reviewing your Decade Questions you may be able to move forward with a clearer sense of what will work for you and help you thrive in the next decade.

Resolutions - More or Less

2009-12-26T10:42:00.000-08:00

It is almost the official time of year when we work on setting resolutions.

Here is an easy way to get started on your resolutions for 2010. What can you do more of in 2010? What can you do less of?

The More

Smile More
Laugh More
Walk More
Drink More Water
Appreciate More
Read More
Write More
Listen More

The Less

Eat Less
Swear Less
Worry Less
Frown Less
Complain Less
Procrastinate Less
Talk Less

Do you want to make more progress in 2010? It may be a perfect time to start working with a transition coach to help you get more from your life in 2010.

Thinking about Unproductive Times

2009-12-19T09:56:00.000-08:00

This is a "best of post" written a few years ago

While working towards being productive is taking a step in the right direction. Working on being organized and expecting magnificent and tangible results are unrealistic during certain phases or periods of time. I think it helps us to acknowledge when we are in these unproductive times. This acceptance of the situation makes us or the client calmer and more relaxed. This new state of mind then sets the foundation for future productivity efforts.

Know to identify the Unproductive Phases of Life

Having a child in ½ day kindergarten and being the designated driver to pick up and drop off

Those 2 – 3 days waiting for definitive biopsy or health test results

Your third trimester during pregnancy

During a home remodeling project

A parent having 3 children under age 5

Immediately 1 – 12 months after having surgery

A new parent having just born or adopted a child

The year you handle a family, friend or relatives estate

The first 6 months to 9 months after a move

Six months to two years after the breakup of a significant relationship

Serving as primary caretaker to a chronically ill or declining family member

The year following the death of a loved one or friend

Looking Forward

2009-12-17T11:36:00.000-08:00

As the new year approaches, it is a good time to look forward!

What events are planned in your near future?

Do you have graduation or completion in 2010?
Do you or family or friends have milestone birthdays or anniversaries?

What are your celebration plans?

What would you like to create for yourself in the near future?

Be more physically fit
Reduce cluttered living
Learn more about ________________
Finish________________
Get started on ___________
Visit _____________

What is your plan of action?

Now is a great time to start working on your future. If you are stuck, you might want to review these earlier postings:

Taking a Looking Back
Stuck and Stagnant
Resizing Your World
Look Elsewhere

Taking a Look Back

2009-12-10T12:42:00.000-08:00

It is almost the end of the year. It is time to take a moment and look back at this year. You can do this for all aspects of your life.

Aspects you might want to review:

Physical Health
Mental and Emotional Health
Work
Learning
Spiritually
Relationships
Family & Friends
Community

If self-reflection is not your thing, try using these focus points:

The questions to ask yourself.

What worked well this year?
What did not work this year?
What did I do above and beyond?
Where could I have extended myself more?
What new skills did I develop, cultivate or enhance?
What negative traits did I practice?

Next time we will take a look at looking forward.

Transforming Shoulds and Coulds

2009-11-30T11:15:00.000-08:00

Are you failing to listen to the should and the could's in your life? By transforming our shoulds into "do's" and "will"s we may accomplish many things. However, sometimes our should and coulds are things we might want to avoid doing entirely.

1. Take a look at your shoulds and coulds

Spend some time over the next few days listening to your inner talk and your external communications. Take note of the number of times you express or think the word "Should" or "Could". If you have a high frequency of shoulds or coulds, (Perhaps 5+ a day) you may want to spend some "thinking, development and planning" time around them.

2. Delve into the shoulds and coulds

After you have listened to yourself over the last few days, you may find some frequent shoulds and coulds. Take time to jot them down in sentence form.

I should get more sleep at night
I wish I could keep my desk clear
We could buy a new car

3. Analyze your should and could's for future work and change.

Let's say you want to get more sleep. How can you go about making it come to fruition? By brainstorming you may come to some possilble solutions.

For example:

I should get more sleep - To get more sleep, go to bed earlier or stay in bed longer. The should becomes a will when you decide to go to sleep earlier or set your alarm for a later morning wake up.

We could buy a new car - Deciding to buy a new or different car, is a process and project. You may choose to get a new car when your current car reaches a certain mileage, or if maintenance fees exceed the cost of a monthly payment. Your new car might be more advantageous when you have to start driving to your new company's office (which is further away) to keep fuel costs down. A new car might make more sense after you have paid off other debts or saved a certain dollar amount. The could becomes more of a strategy and plan development when you look at the when and why components.

4. Transform your should and could's to wills, when's, why's or later decisions. If you formalize and bring these shoulds and coulds to the next phase you will allow more space for things to happen.

5. Erase your negative should and could's from your mental and verbal vocabulary. Sometimes we have stuck should and could's which can not be easily transformed into action or do not warrant further thought about.

For Example:

I should have said ..... instead of ......
I could have read the directions three times and caught my mistake (after improperly assembling a complex piece of furniture)

Spend some time working on your should and could's and you will likely transform your life.

Look Elsewhere

2009-11-09T15:30:00.000-08:00

Transition Your Thinking

2009-11-07T15:39:00.000-08:00

Your thinking determines your mood, attitude and your choices. How are you thinking today?

Cloudy or Clear Thinking

Thinking Outside the Box

Bottom Up Vs. Top Down

Non Thinking as a Strategy

Under thinking

Over thinking

For more thoughts on thinking visit Terry's Thinking - A blog about thinking.

Being Positive in a Negative World

2009-11-03T13:50:00.000-08:00

It is hard to stay positive when we are filled with negativity. Recently I've noticed more negative conversations around the world's water coolers. How can we remain or become positive?

Choose Positive Media and Messages
Avoid watching too much daily television news. Look instead at situational comedies. Seek out positive television shows or series. Stop watching so much television and read an uplifting book instead.

Smile more
Individuals who smile are more likely to be received in a positive light. In others words, we get what we give.

Be Positive where you can
Say thank you, your welcome and really mean it . Work on your inflections.

Appreciate and Play with your Pets
Pet's are great stress relievers. Spend some time watching or hanging out with them.

Realize you can't necessarily change the world but you can change yourself and your attitude.

Books on Transition

2009-10-31T15:00:00.000-07:00

Books on transition are very diverse and cover a wide range of topics. Here is a suggestion:

Changing Jobs or Careers
Between Trapezes by Gail Blanke is an excellent book on making changes between jobs, careers or life stages. This book highlights eight individuals going through major life transitions, primarily in mid stream in their careers. This book has a few good takeaways. Give it a try if you are thinking about changing your line of work.

Forgiving Oneself

2009-10-23T11:18:00.000-07:00

Last week I had an unwelcome surprise. While walking my dog, I slipped and broke my ankle. At the onset, while I was in a good amount of pain, I also spend a fair amount of time, internally scolding myself for my foolishness.

Looking back, I see that I may have experienced twice as much "pain", more than I really needed. My "slip slide" on the pavement was a mistake, not by intention. Sometimes we let our guard down and things just happen.

The ankle is healing, and I am hobbling along. From this experience, I know I will again be more wary of the puddles in my path and the way I treat myself when I make a mistake.

Transitioning to Having Children

2009-10-14T13:54:00.000-07:00

One of life's biggest transitions is going from being without a child to having one. Having a child changes many things:

1) No longer is there just "you" to plan for. You have another life to care for and cherish.

2) Having a child often makes you more aware of your mortality.

3) Having a child changes some of your perspectives, outlook and choices

4) No matter how old your child becomes, they are still your child in your heart.

Enjoy parenthood. Realize and accept there will be many challenges and changes in your life.

900 Days at Sea

2009-10-07T18:24:00.000-07:00

Do you ever feel you are adrift in the ocean of your life? Sometimes when we get lulled in the complacency of everyday waves of life we lose sight of where we are headed. We are usually most often adrift when we are out of touch with who we are and where we are going.

Going out drifting can be unwise if we do not have a map or a chart. Sure, we can enjoy a few days of "just being" but if we venture into waters unknown we can be pushed upon the rocks and shoals of life.

To get redirected and back on course, we need to stop and take careful inventory. The four questions we need to begin asking is:

Who are we?

What have we to give?

Where shall we spend our days upon this planet?

Who would be good and interesting passengers on our boat of life?

For the last 900 days, a sailor has been on an ocean voyage without resupplying or stopping.The original destination day 1000 - However the planned return to New York harbor in April of 2010 may be extended a few more weeks or months due to winter weather. It has been fun being a visitor to the 1000 day at sea blog and tracking this unique and interesting journey.

If you like to read and want to take another sea journey you can read the classic book Sailing Alone Around the World by Joshua Slocum.

Revisiting The Challenge of Change

2009-09-30T23:06:00.000-07:00

Change is hard, change is never easy. The only thing constant of course is CHANGE.

Charles Kettering who was an American electrical engineer and manufacturer in the late 1900's said "The world hates change, yet it is the only thing that has brought progress".

Goethe, the German poet and dramatist said "Life belongs to the living, and he who lives must be prepared for change".

Given the insight of the ages, it is helpful to understand the steps involved in change. First step is problem recognition. Sometimes problems just arrive and hit us on the head. Other times, a nagging feeling gives us a sense of things to come.

The second thing to do when examining change is to identify the causes. What exactly caused this? Sometimes the cause is simple, other times a complex series of events created the change. The third step is going through the change. Change, when possible, is most often most comfortable when we implement it ourselves. Often case this is not what happens. Change happens then we change. Finally we need to evaluate the changes we have undertaken.

Change is a laboratory for self and organizational growth. Although we may fear it, it is best to embrace it and learn from it. Change is hard, change takes work but in the end we grow.

I originally wrote this article in the late 1990's and then posted this article on my Transition Your Life blog in October of 2007. Somethings are worth revisiting and contemplating for new lessons, insights and thoughts.

Transitions Through Your Life

2009-09-24T22:44:00.000-07:00

Over the last few months, I been describing stages in the adult life. Here is a recap of the stages and links to the posts.

Transition Your Life - Adulthood
Transition Your Life - Early Adulthood
Transition Your Life - Middle Age
Transition Your Life - Golden Age
Transition Your Life - Senior Age
Transition Your Life - Elderhood

Stillness and Silence

2009-09-16T21:09:00.000-07:00

We are always surrounded by noise. Even the quietest of spaces have noises. To quiet our minds we sometimes need to quiet our space. To begin the quiet process we need to sit still and just be.

While you are reading this on the screen you are likely hearing the hum of your computer's fan or having the din of some music you may be playing in the background. Perhaps you are wiggling on your chair, or handling some of the objects around your desk.

Try an exercise of stillness. It is unlikely to be easy, it is unlikely to be pure silence, but you may be able to do half of this exercise.

Silence and stillness usually bring us the freedom to begin inner retrospection.

You could try listening to a short nature sound the same one every day, for a week to see if it relaxes your mind and opens you up to new possibilities.

Here are a couple of suggestions:

Transition Your Life - Elderhood

2009-09-04T11:00:00.000-07:00

This is the sixth and final in the series of posts on transition times. Let's visit the transition periods that often occur in Elder years (age 80 - 100+).

Transitioning to patriarch or matriarch of family
Transitioning to a retirement or assisted living community
Transitioning to having help or occasional assistance
Transitioning to grandchildren and great-grandchildren
Transitioning to loss of loved one and friends
Transitioning to evolving spiritual or religious beliefs
Transitioning to a new or chronic health condition
Transitioning to physical restrictions and limitations
Transitioning to changing relationships with your children (adult to elderly parent)
Transitioning to family historian
Transitioning to simpler lifestyle
Transitioning to fewer hobbies and interests

See also
Transition Your Life - Adulthood
Transition Your Life - Early Adulthood
Transition Your Life - Middle Age
Transition Your Life - Golden Age
Transition Your Life - Senior Age

Looking at Different

2009-08-24T14:27:00.000-07:00

People can be very inventive. Some people have the natural ability to be outside of the box thinkers.

You may enjoy visiting this Museum of Unintended Use blog, developed by a Science Journalist who lives in the Netherlands.

What can you contribute?

The Journey

2009-08-14T03:00:00.000-07:00

Today marks the official entry into my third year of blogging. I began in August of 2007 with the goal to "learn how to blog" and have a good time. My original first post was an introduction of my concept.

Blogging has been a delightful journey. Along the way I have been:

Improving my technology skills
Making new friends
Finding out new ideas and concepts
Learning that blogging is a great way to express one's very being

In addition to the above, I have taken a few courses and even given a presentation on the concept of blogging to my fellow non-fiction writer's group.

Last year, I also began a second blog Terry's Thinking. This is a blog that keeps you up to date on trends, thoughts and issues regarding productivity, organization and general business practices.

This being the start of my third year of blogging, I want to let you know I will continue to explore the in's and out's of change with you on an almost weekly basis. I will also take some time to help us enjoy the journey during transitions whether they are by choice or by chance.

P.S. I am also open to suggestions regarding content within the realm of the topic.

Stuck and Stagnant

2009-08-05T12:19:00.000-07:00

Listen to Grow

2009-08-03T10:00:00.000-07:00

Change is hard, listening may be even harder. When we are changing we may find ourselves having to find more time to listen. Listening takes energy.

Finding the right people to listen to is not easy. Missteps are usually found along this path. The best method for selecting good "listening" is to go with your intuition. Listening to a person who is soothing might be good, yet they can lull us into a stasis, state of complacency or even a paralysis of indecision. Listening to someone who causes us major anxiety may not be a good choice either. However, sometimes the individual's who causes us minor anxiety and inner turmoil are helping us develop new thoughts, thinking patterns and helping us change.

Listen to learn, listen to grow. Change will come.

Who do you plan on listening to?

Transition Your Life - Seniorhood

2009-07-27T17:55:00.000-07:00

This is the fifth in the series of posts on transition times. Let's visit the transition periods that often occur in senior adulthood (age 70 - 90).

Transitioning to a smaller home or retirement living
Transitioning to grandchildren and great-grandchildren
Transitioning to loss of a loved one
Transitioning to patriarch or matriarch of family
Transitioning to retirement
Transitioning to part time or volunteer work
Transitioning to evolving spiritual or religious beliefs
Transitioning to a new or chronic health condition
Transitioning to caretaker role for adult child or grandchildren
Transitioning to having married children/grandchildren and in-law relationships
Transitioning to financial gain/financial loss
Transitioning to changing relationships with your children (adult to elderly parent)
Transitioning to common aging conditions (vision and mobility concerns)
Transitioning to family historian
Transitioning to new hobbies and changing interests

See also
Transition Your Life - Adulthood
Transition Your Life - Early Adulthood
Transition Your Life - Middle Age
Transition Your Life - Golden Age

Keep Calm and Carry On

2009-07-21T14:23:00.000-07:00

Sometimes we need a mantra to get us through the day. The slogan Keep Calm and Carry On was developed at the start of World War II.

You can find out more about the poster and it's history from the British bookstore that found it in a dusty box of books purchased at an auction.