What happens when you reach your goal? While many Transition Your Life readers may not see the end or their destination at hand, I think discussing how one faces or handles this is of some importance.
When you reach your goal, this is definitely when we need to first celebrate and savor in the moment of glory. This is something we should not miss.
Secondly, we need to appreciate what we or others did to help make the goal achievable. Very few journeys are journeys of one. Sometimes upon reflection we realize others helped shape us and made contributions in ways we could not imagine. This might be the high school teacher, the motivational speaker, the neighbor down the road who always gave you a smile.
Thirdly , once the momentum of arrival and completion has slowed, I believe we need to ask ourselves some questions relating to the accomplishment of the goal. Making an immediate evaluation of what we have done has some value, but when the goal or achievement is monumental, I think taking a few weeks to ponder this might be the best choice.
Reaching your goal is a achievement which takes lots of effort and stamina. Give yourself some congratulations and savor your success.
This is a slightly revised best of post from 2010.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Being Your Own Best Friend
This is a post repeated from last September 27, 2007 - but is well worth rereading any time your life gets hectic.
You can be your own best friend by:
Taking care of your mental, emotional and basic physical needs
Taking time out for yourself when you need it
Removing and extracting yourself from stress and overload
Being able to say no when you have had enough
Treating yourself as well as you treat others
Work on improving who you are on a daily basis
Asking for help and support from other friends when you need it
Being patient with yourself
You can be your own best friend by:
Taking care of your mental, emotional and basic physical needs
Taking time out for yourself when you need it
Removing and extracting yourself from stress and overload
Being able to say no when you have had enough
Treating yourself as well as you treat others
Work on improving who you are on a daily basis
Asking for help and support from other friends when you need it
Being patient with yourself
Monday, March 14, 2011
When Life Gets Hectic
There are certain times when life get hectic. This can be at the start of a change in your life, such as the birth of a new baby, during the course of planning or hosting a big family or work event (wedding, reunion), the moving of your household or office, serious illness of a loved one,change of a job or new employment, an intentional or unintentional remodel of your home, shopping for a big ticket item such as a car, a school or college.
1. Cut out the Extra.
During these specific "hectic" times it helps to work on reducing existing commitments, cutting back on stressful activities and saying no to new options that don't fit in. You can help reduce your stress by being observant and selective in your activities and events.
2. Enlist Help
Don't go it alone if you don't have too. Look for help in a variety of areas. This can be from friends, family members or specific "field" professionals.
3. Make sure You have Some Fun.
One important item, often overlooked, is to add in some fun or pleasurable items daily to help reduce the added tension.
4. Take Care of You
Getting enough sleep and eating healthy is also a big must. Exercise is also important, especially if your hectic occasion changes your routine.
By being aware of these four items you can help reduce your stress and make this period of your life easier.
Do you have any other ideas?
1. Cut out the Extra.
During these specific "hectic" times it helps to work on reducing existing commitments, cutting back on stressful activities and saying no to new options that don't fit in. You can help reduce your stress by being observant and selective in your activities and events.
2. Enlist Help
Don't go it alone if you don't have too. Look for help in a variety of areas. This can be from friends, family members or specific "field" professionals.
3. Make sure You have Some Fun.
One important item, often overlooked, is to add in some fun or pleasurable items daily to help reduce the added tension.
4. Take Care of You
Getting enough sleep and eating healthy is also a big must. Exercise is also important, especially if your hectic occasion changes your routine.
By being aware of these four items you can help reduce your stress and make this period of your life easier.
Do you have any other ideas?
Monday, March 7, 2011
The Two Sides of Tears - Loss and Achievement
Have you ever stopped to wonder about tears? We can have tears of sorrow and tears of joy. When you experience someone’s tears did you ever stop to think you could be the cause of them in a positive or negative sense?
This quote by Suresh Advaithas expresses it very well.
The biggest loss in life - Tears in someone’s eyes because of you.
Biggest achievement in life - Tears in someone’s eyes for you.
May you bring happy tears to those you know.
This is a best of post from Terry's Thinking, Terry Prince's other blog.
This quote by Suresh Advaithas expresses it very well.
The biggest loss in life - Tears in someone’s eyes because of you.
Biggest achievement in life - Tears in someone’s eyes for you.
May you bring happy tears to those you know.
This is a best of post from Terry's Thinking, Terry Prince's other blog.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Are You a Short-Timer?
Are you suffering from Short-Timer's Syndrome? This often happens when we are close to reaching our goal.
Originally, the term Short-Timers was applied to a syndrome observed in military soldiers who were about two to three months out from their rotation or returning home. I believe short-timer syndrome can apply to civilian and military life.
Senior Slump or Lame Duck is another way of terming this specialized short term but difficult condition. This syndrome is seen and observed in work, education or at the end of an association or officer leadership position.
Since we are almost three months from May and June, the common months of graduation and association term ends, it is a good time to take a deeper look at it. Short-timers often get burned out and are frazzled. This is because they have so much to do or accomplish in their limited time. However, short-timers need to think about their future as much as they need to enjoy the present. This is a true time of transition and transitions are never easy. Being a short-timer is hard.
Review the following and see how you approach the end of a work project, educational assignment or association position.
At Work:
When the contract or project is almost at the end -
a) I get focused and so preoccupied with the future, I don't focus well on today's project with full intent.
b) I try to be all things to all people, so I can leave a lasting "legacy". I avoid thinking about the "day after" I finish. I will think about that later.
In an Association:
When my term is almost over -
a) I begin to get the attitude of "I'll let the next person deal with it".
b) I work overly hard and start burning the candle at both ends. So much to do, so little time. I don't think about the future.
At the End of an Education Program:
When I am nearing the completion of my degree or educational program -
a) I find myself worrying about the future and I am not concentrating enough on the assignments and work I have left to do.
b) I start focusing too much on the now, and avoid thinking or doing anything in planning for my upcoming future.
What Can You Do if You Are a Short-Timer?
1) First determine what kind of short-timer you are?
2) Take a moment and view your end by the other perspective.
3) Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help you avoid burning the candle at both ends. The coach can provide some light and clarity to help you see clearer beyond the current assignment, and help you make a bright future, while still helping you focus on the now.
For Short-Timer's
Want to stay in the present? Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help guide you through these times.
For Family, Friends or Colleagues of Short-Timers
Consider giving your "short-timer" the early gift of a transition or life coaching package. This will help your short-timer shine through the end of their work and help them plan for their future.
You might also enjoy these posts - Eking It Out in The End
Senior Year and Change.
This is a best of post of 2010.
Originally, the term Short-Timers was applied to a syndrome observed in military soldiers who were about two to three months out from their rotation or returning home. I believe short-timer syndrome can apply to civilian and military life.
Senior Slump or Lame Duck is another way of terming this specialized short term but difficult condition. This syndrome is seen and observed in work, education or at the end of an association or officer leadership position.
Since we are almost three months from May and June, the common months of graduation and association term ends, it is a good time to take a deeper look at it. Short-timers often get burned out and are frazzled. This is because they have so much to do or accomplish in their limited time. However, short-timers need to think about their future as much as they need to enjoy the present. This is a true time of transition and transitions are never easy. Being a short-timer is hard.
Review the following and see how you approach the end of a work project, educational assignment or association position.
At Work:
When the contract or project is almost at the end -
a) I get focused and so preoccupied with the future, I don't focus well on today's project with full intent.
b) I try to be all things to all people, so I can leave a lasting "legacy". I avoid thinking about the "day after" I finish. I will think about that later.
In an Association:
When my term is almost over -
a) I begin to get the attitude of "I'll let the next person deal with it".
b) I work overly hard and start burning the candle at both ends. So much to do, so little time. I don't think about the future.
At the End of an Education Program:
When I am nearing the completion of my degree or educational program -
a) I find myself worrying about the future and I am not concentrating enough on the assignments and work I have left to do.
b) I start focusing too much on the now, and avoid thinking or doing anything in planning for my upcoming future.
What Can You Do if You Are a Short-Timer?
1) First determine what kind of short-timer you are?
2) Take a moment and view your end by the other perspective.
3) Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help you avoid burning the candle at both ends. The coach can provide some light and clarity to help you see clearer beyond the current assignment, and help you make a bright future, while still helping you focus on the now.
For Short-Timer's
Want to stay in the present? Consider hiring a transition or life coach to help guide you through these times.
For Family, Friends or Colleagues of Short-Timers
Consider giving your "short-timer" the early gift of a transition or life coaching package. This will help your short-timer shine through the end of their work and help them plan for their future.
You might also enjoy these posts - Eking It Out in The End
Senior Year and Change.
This is a best of post of 2010.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Stuck and Stagnant
Stagnation is painful, messy and like quicksand can suck us down into the depths of despair. Stagnation happens to everyone at some point or another. The pond is usually stinky and the time spent in it is not pleasant. Remember it won't be forever, although, it may seem like it at the time.
How can we get out of the pond of stagnation?
1. First, realize we are in the pond!
2. Take stock of the good things going on, despite the mess we are in.
3. Take the focus off ourselves and pay attention to the world for a while. We can do this by reading a book, researching something new, by walking and taking in the scenery.
4. Smile even though we may not want to. Our smiling disposition will likely bring more positive attention to us rather than the continuity in our negative state.
5. Seek out and utilize a variety of help and guidance. This may include reconnecting to our faith, trusted friends and even seeking out the help of professionals.
How have you handled stagnation?
This is a best of post from 2009
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Put Your Heart in It
My friend Marilyn, once told me "It's when you have your whole heart in it - that's the key to success"!
February, is a great time to ask yourself how you can you put your "whole heart" into what you do.
Being present is one thing. That means really being where you are.
Next are the "More's":
Terry now provides life coaching services.
February, is a great time to ask yourself how you can you put your "whole heart" into what you do.
Being present is one thing. That means really being where you are.
Next are the "More's":
- smile more
- give more
- play more
- work more
- learn more
Terry now provides life coaching services.
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