Transition Your Life - Adulthood

This is the second in the series of posts on transition times. Let's visit the transition periods that often occur in adulthood (age 30 - 40).

Transitioning to having a child
Transitioning to having a teenager
Transitioning to accepting infertility
Transitioning to a new skill or hobby
Transitioning to the loss of parent(s) or loved ones
Transitioning to the loss of a relationship
Transitioning to a career change
Transitioning to new neighbors
Transitioning to having a chronic health condition
Transitioning to new home
Transitioning to job loss
Transitioning to evolving spiritual or religious beliefs
Transitioning to financial losses/financial gains
Transitioning to changing relationships with your parents (adult to adult)


Life is a journey, you don't have to go it alone. Having a transition coach can be the best decision and investment you can make.

See also Transition Your Life - Early Adulthood

Eking It Out at the End

When we reach the near end of a project or activity, distractions seem to find us. In our eagerness to move on to the next thing, we may lose focus on the current assignment and spend too much time concentrating on the next thing. Staying focused is often hard towards the end.

The reasons we have difficulty are:

1) We want to move on the next project, adventure or assignment. In some fields this is called "short timers syndrome".

2) We know moving on means changing our daily routine or work patterns. We may like our current day and this new upcoming day or life may be hard to imagine.

3) We know moving on will mean new or different relationships with people, places or things.


Some strategies for moving on at the end of a project or assignment are:

Strategy 1 - Stay focused. Think about the present not the future.

Strategy 2 - Enjoy your last days or weeks with your present situation and acknowledge and appreciate the familiar routines and daily patterns.

Strategy 3 - Avoid procrastination activities and bring the best you can to the current work or assignment.

Strategy 4 - Take care of your physical self. Get enough sleep, drink plenty of water and maintain a healthy diet.

If you have just finished eeking it out, what advice or strategies do you have to offer?


See also: Muddled in the Middle

Look for an upcoming post on Sluggish Starts - How to Get Going.

Transition Times - Early Adulthood

This is the first of a series of posts on transition times. Let's visit the early transition periods. They often occur in early adulthood (age 18 to age 35).

Transitioning to college
Transitioning to job seeker
Transitioning to first "real" job
Transitioning to couple
Transitioning to engaged person
Transitioning to newly married
Transitioning to unemployed
Transitioning to new career path
Transitioning to relocating to a new city or town
Transitioning to further education
Transitioning to the loss of a loved one
Transitioning to new friends
Transitioning to a new or newly diagnosed chronic health condition
Transitioning to first home
Transitioning to expectant parent(s)
Transitioning to having a newborn
Transitioning to having a toddler
Transitioning to having a school age child

While not everybody experiences all of these phases, most individuals within the 18 -35 year age range will experience at least two to four of these.

Transitions are not easy, they take courage, perseverance and sometimes tenacity.

Time for Fun

Let's talk about having fun. Fun is something we all need to take seriously. After all, all work and no play is what makes a day dull and us boring.

How can you have fun Today? How can you make fun everyday a priority? Having fun is different for each of us. For some it may be reading a book, watching a favorite TV show, going for a walk or spending time talking on the phone to a friend or family member.

It is important to set some time for fun when we are overloaded with a long "to do list" or complex project. It may seem like a misuse of our time but the "fun break" or "Fun out" will make us more productive in the long run.

When we schedule in fun, we maintain a good balance in our life.

So what fun are you planning today?


Related Earlier Posts -

See Seek to Enjoy All Things
See Recess
See Finding Brilliance in a Dull Day

Muddled in the Middle

Sometimes we are just stuck. Like stuck in the mire of things. We don't know which way to go. Just like in nature, it can happen within ourselves.

Being "muddled in the middle" is uncomfortable and irritating. It makes us cranky and confused. After all, being muddled, is not a nice place to be.

Getting unstuck takes time. Sometimes it takes getting a new attitude or perspective.

Here are some strategies:

Strategy 1 - Realize it takes time to get unstuck, time has to pass.

Strategy 2 - Forgive yourself for being in the middle. Stop fussing and just be.

Strategy 3 - Watch out for procrastination distractions. Know what your usual procrastination activities are and limit them. Too much time spent procrastinating will prolong your muddled time.

Strategy 4 - Make time for fun. Muddled time requires "funouts" - a "funout" is like a timeout but instead of being a time of punishment it is time spent having fun.

Strategy 5 - Don't go it alone. Talk to a trusted friend or your coach about being in the middle. Just the act of talking about it may help you pass well though this stage of life.

If you are in the middle of the muddle, what advice do you have to share?

New Math

A site to get you thinking is New Math. Don't worry, it is not complicated. It features concepts that are explained in simple division, subtractions, multiplication and addition.

This is similar to a site I discussed last year on my blog. Think about the site Indexed without the graphics.

Spring is a time to clear the cobwebs from our minds. We spend time spring cleaning when the weather gets warmer. If you are in the Southern Hemisphere, cooler weather brings the desire to study more, and learn new things. The site New Math can inspire you no matter where you live or at least start you on some tangential thinking to transition your mind or life.

Taxing Times

Sometimes we feel spent around this time of year, especially if we are still working on getting our taxes completed. If you made it to this site, it may mean one of three things:

1) You are putting off completing your taxes
2) You are done with your taxes this year
3) You are looking to do something different next year

Often we repeat the same process every year, by procrastinating and by being on what I'd like to call "auto pilot". Auto pilot makes us unproductive, and because of this we are doomed to repeat the same mistakes.

Making a change is taking a chance by doing things differently. It starts by turning off our auto pilot. We need to think things through and evaluate things before they become our actions.

Now I may be preaching to the choir if you have already submitted your taxes. However, we all go on auto pilot from time to time. This begs the question, "What would you like to transition in your life?"

Take a moment and send me a comment, let me know how you are doing - Taxes done, taxes not done, taxes or if you are experiencing taxing times.